Thursday, November 26, 2015

Oh! my Kitchen....

 Kitchens should be a place where family can gather to visit, to eat, to work on projects and to just spend time with one another. So often I feel like my kitchen is the last place I want anyone to be. It is a cluttered mess that I just cannot get a handle on. So, I have decided to sit down and make a list of all the things I need to do to make my kitchen a central place in our home. Hopefully once I make this list, I can stick to it!

Before I can do all these things daily, weekly and monthly, I am going to have to do one week of everything on this list. This will get things in shape and make it easier to upkeep. I feel like my kitchen is the most overwhelming area of my home to clean because it is constantly in need of attention. I find myself exhausted by the time I feel like things are in order, and then I don't have a desire to spend more time there cooking. We love home cooked meals here. They are healthier, cheaper, and more delicious than anything you can get at a restaurant. It is important for me to cook, and to do that, I need to make my kitchen a desirable place to be. Making sure the dishes are done first thing in the morning or right before going to bed is one way to do that. I don't always get them done right before bed because that is when I have time with my husband, but first thing in the morning makes preparing meals for the rest of the day much more delightful.

DAILY::
--Wash the dishes and put them away
--Take out the trash
--Clean the stovetop, table,sink and counters
--Clean the floor
--Eliminate the clutter
   *countertop clutter
 *tabletop clutter
   *(Store appliances out of sight if possible)

WEEKLY::
--Clean out the fridge and scrub the outside and top
--Wash windows, ovens, microwave, and any other appliances
--Quick pantry organization
--Inventory food and make meal plan for the week
--Create grocery list

MONTHLY::
--Go through cabinets and give away or throw away the junk
--Scrub the inside of cabinets
--Go through drawers
--Scrub drawers
--Make sure items are stored in the most convenient places
--Wash the curtains
--Go through spices
--Organize recipes

Part of being a Christian is practicing hospitality, and having a clean kitchen is essential in that. I do not expect things to be spotless all the time just because I am going to try to follow this list, but it should be presentable more often than not.

How do you conquer your kitchen? Do you ever feel overwhelmed by it all? What are some of your best cleaning tips?

Blessings In Christ,
Christina

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

The Process of Molding...

Allowing myself to be molded into the kind of woman God wants me to be is not an easy process. It is painful and it is full of scary revelations. I am learning many things about myself as I strive to walk through this. Cultivating a gentle and quiet spirit is no easy task. I am learning that it really is impossible by myself.

Some things that I am slowly learning so far include...

1. Pray silently instead of opening my mouth. This keeps me from committing a number of sins. While I am praying I am asking God to cleanse my mind and heart as well. If I am just keeping my mouth shut, but thinking about what I'd really love to say it isn't changing my heart at all.

2. Cultivating a gentle and quiet spirit requires me to deal with my emotions differently. The way I reflect my anger shows the true state of my heart. I have by no means conquered this problem. It is so easy to fly off the handle, and allow anger to progress from stage to stage until it becomes rage. This is not conducive to a gentle and quiet spirit at all. To overcome this, I am striving not to ruminate. I have heard that most women tend to ruminate on things which makes the problem escalate. In order to keep my spirit where it should be, I need to forgive immediately not through my own power, but through God's. I myself do not have the kind of love it takes to forgive someone the minute they have wronged me, but God does. He wants to strengthen us and show us how to love like He does. I am trying to let Him! If we are ruled by our emotions, it is so easy to allow one little thing that happens in the day shake us to the core. God is unchanging and we need to remember that.

3. Going against what society tells me. Society tells me that physical appearance is more important than the spirit. This is a lie! This is not from God. He tells us that our souls are so much more important. It is not a sin to look nice, and God encourages us to practice healthy habits, but if all I am concerned about is how I look, then I am not in a good place spiritually. So, it is time to stop obsessing over gaining or losing a few pounds and the break-outs that inevitably happen and focus on the more important matters.

4. Thinking of what gentle and quiet mean. When I think of gentleness, I think of a soft touch, an expression of love, a tender and loving word, or all things soothing. When I think of quiet, I think stillness, calm, peace, and waiting. I am striving to be these things.

I loved this excerpt from J.R. Miller's, A Gentle Heart (1896)...

"We must never rest satisfied with any partial attainment. Just so far as we are still ungentle, rude to anyone, even to a beggar, sharp in speech, haughty in bearing, unkind in any way to a human being the lesson of gentleness is yet imperfectly learned, and we must continue our diligence. We must get control of our temper, and must master all our moods and feelings. We must train ourselves to check any faintest risings of irritation, turning it instantly into an impulse of tenderness. We must school ourselves to be thoughtful, patient, charitable, and to desire always to do good. The way to acquire any grace of character is to compel thought, word, and act in the one channel until the lovely quality has become a permanent part of our life." - J.R. Miller


I am anxious to keep working my way towards a quiet and gentle spirit, and will pray for those of you who have decided to do the same. It won't be easy, but it is always easier with encouragement and prayer. I would love to hear from you!










Father, Please reach down and guide us with Your words and Your hand. Help us to recognize Your voice, the voice of the Shepherd. Cultivate in us a quiet and gentle spirit, and use us to bless those around us. Create in us a beacon of light that shines for You, and draw others ever closer with the character you are building in us. Help us to encourage one another. In Your Name, Amen.


 Blessings In Christ,
Your Sister
Christina

Cultivating Godly Character Traits

It can seem completely impossible to be all the things we desire, and that God wants for us like a gentle and quiet spirit, patience, peace, love, exercising self-control, gentleness, modesty, meekness, submission, wisdom, humbleness and servitude to name a few. Nothing is impossible with God. He wants to help us become these things. The purpose is to become more Christ-Like.     

I want to truly be all these things and more. I want to shine a light that draws others to Christ, but so often I fail. What am I doing wrong? I am not truly committing myself. I merely think on these character traits once in awhile and then completely forget what being a woman of God looks like. I need to pray over them, and ask God to show me how to cultivate them in my life. These traits are acquired through allowing the Holy Spirit to work through me. I do not do that very often...most of the time I try to do it on my own.

I have decided to stay focused on each character trait until I have established it in my life even if it takes years. I know this will be a huge challenge for me, but I also know that it will draw me closer to the Lord. Have you ever considered doing something like this? 

I am going to be focusing first on cultivating a gentle and quiet spirit. What does this look like? I think it means to think before speaking, to be more concerned with matters of the spirit than with my looks, gossip, speaking critical words, drawing attention to myself instead of to God, and being loud. A gentle and quiet spirit can mean so many things, but mostly I think it is attained by truly allowing the Spirit to work in your life and submitting to God before acting or speaking. I think this trait is invaluable as a wife and mother because the attitudes we have and the state of our spirits can affect every single person in our household.

1 Peter 3: 4 (NIV)
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

I challenge you to work on cultivating a gentle and quiet spirit until you have grasped it. Let me know if you decide to join in. I would love to encourage you and lift you up in prayer as you embark on a journey to cultivating godly character traits within your life.

Blessings In Christ,
Your Sister
Christina

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

What if our Thanksgiving prayer really thanked God for everything?

While we tend to look forward to Thanksgiving because it usually means a four day holiday, getting together with family, and eating more food than we have all year, it is my sincere desire that it be more meaningful this year. What if Thanksgiving were the one day in which we over-emphasized what should be on our hearts every day of the year: a heart of gratitude in everything? What if our Thanksgiving prayer really thanked God for everything that has happened in the past year?
God clearly spelled out His good and perfect will for us in 1 Thessalonians 5:18  when He inspired the Apostle Paul to write: "In everything give thanks, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." Did you catch that? In everything. In the good times, as well as the bad. In the pleasantries of life, as well as in the pain. During difficult times, trying times and frustrating times, too. 
I got to thinking about how Thanksgiving  might be so much more meaningful if I focused on thanking God for the things He rarely hears thanks for. Try this with me this year. Thank Him, not just for the food on the table before you partake, and the "blessings for this past year" but for all the ways He has not performed according to your liking. For all the times He has said "no" and for all the ways He has worked in and through your life, perhaps without you knowing it. Thank Him for all the unresolved issues and the ways you are still waiting for answers. Thank Him regardless and see what it does for your soul as you offer Him a heart of obedience and surrender this year. Thank Him regardless and see how it moves the others who are around your table. 
Consider praying this prayer around your table on Thanksgiving: 
Thank you, God, for this food we are about to eat. And thank You for Your many blessings on us  this past year...the ones we've seen, as well as the ones we haven't seen. 
Thank you, God for the times You have said "no." They have helped us depend on You so much  more.
Thank you, God, for unanswered prayer. It reminds us that You know what's best for us, even  when our opinion differs. 
Thank You for the things you have withheld. You have protected us from what we may never  realize. 
Thank You, God, for the doors You have closed. They have prevented us from going where You  would rather not have us go. 
Thank you, Lord, for the physical pain You've allowed in our lives.  It has helped us more closely  relate to Your sufferings on our behalf. 
Thank you, Lord, for the alone times in our lives. Those times have forced us to lean in closer to  You. 
Thank you, God, for the uncertainties we've experienced. They have deepened our trust in You. 
Thank You, Lord,  for the times You came through for us when we didn't even know we needed  a rescue.
Thank You, Lord, for the losses we have experienced. They have been a reminder that You are  our greatest gain. 
Thank You, God, for the tears we have shed. They have kept our hearts soft and moldable.  
Thank You, God, for the times we haven't been able to control our circumstances. They have  reminded us that You are sovereign and on the throne. 
Thank You, God, for Your ability to take what we consider 'tragedy' and turn it into a treasure.
Thank You, God, for those You have called home to be with You. Their absence from this earth  reminds us to keep our eyes fixed on heaven.  
Thank You, God, that we have an inheritance in the heavenly places...something that this world  can never steal from us and we could never selfishly squander. 
Thank You, God, for the greatest gift You could ever give us: forgiveness through Your perfect  Son's death on the cross on our behalf. 
Thank you, God, for the righteousness You credited toward us, through the death and  resurrection of Jesus. It's a righteousness we could never attain to on our own. 
And thank You not only for our eternal salvation, but for the salvation You afford us every day of  our lives as You save us  from ourselves, our foolishness, our own limited insights, and our  frailties in light of Your power and strength. 
Thank You, God, for all that You have allowed and not allowed in our lives this past year. For we  commit our lives anew to You this day and ask that You would continue to remind us,  throughout this next year, that You are God, You are on the throne, and You are eternally good. 
Thank You, finally, that we can pray in the name of Jesus, who made our access to You and a  personal relationship with You possible in Jesus Name,Amen. 
Hope this thanksgiving prayer can bring joy and gladness to your family this holiday. Use this prayer all year round to continue to renew your mind and focus on God's goodness.






Remember, the Holy Spirit intercedes for us and God knows your heart even if you can't find the words to pray. 
God Bless You

Happy Thanksgiving
 Christina.

Question: "What does it mean to have a personal relationship with God?"



Answer: 
Having a personal relationship with God begins the moment we realize our need for Him, admit we are sinners, and in faith receive Jesus Christ as Savior. God, our heavenly Father, has always desired to be close to us, to have a relationship with us. Before Adam sinned in the Garden of Eden (Genesis chapter 3), both he and Eve knew God on an intimate, personal level. They walked with Him in the garden and talked directly to Him. Due to the sin of man, we became separated and disconnected from God.

What many of us do not know, realize, or care about, is that Jesus gave us the most amazing gift—the opportunity to spend eternity with God if we trust in Him. “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 6:23). God became a human being in the Person of Jesus Christ to take on our sin, be killed, and then be raised to life again, proving His victory over sin and death. “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1). If we accept this gift, we have become acceptable to God and can have a relationship with Him.

Having a personal relationship with God means we should include God in our daily lives. We should pray toHim, read His word, and meditate on verses in an effort to get to know Him better. We should pray for wisdom (James 1:5), which is the most valuable asset we could ever have. We should take our requests to Him, asking in Jesus' name (John 15:16). Jesus is the one who loves us enough to give His life for us (Romans 5:8), and He is the one who bridged the gap between us and God.

The Holy Spirit has been given to us as our Counselor. “If you love me, you will obey what I command. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever—the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you” (John 14:15-17). Jesus said this before He died, and after He died, the Holy Spirit became available to all who earnestly seek to receive Him. He is the one who lives in the hearts of believers and never leaves. He counsels us, teaches us truths, and changes our hearts. Without this divine Holy Spirit, we would not have the ability to fight against evil and temptations. But since we do have Him, we begin to produce the fruit that comes from allowing the Spirit to control us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).

This personal relationship with God is not as hard to find as we might think, and there is no mysterious formula for getting it. As soon as we become children of God, we receive the Holy Spirit, who will begin to work on our hearts. We should pray without ceasing, read the Bible, and join a Bible-believing church; all these things will help us to grow spiritually. Trusting in God to get us through each day and believing that He is our sustainer is the way to have a relationship with Him. Although we may not see changes immediately, we will begin to see them over time, and all the truths will become clear.





















Blessings in Christ
Happy Thanksgiving
Christina






ARISE,WOMAN OF GOD!


Saturday, November 21, 2015

A Piece of Advice from your sister

There's no time like the present. Start moving forward now. Maybe you have an idea you've put off developing, or you're stuck in park. Either way it's time to take steps towards accomplishing your goals. Don't make excuses. If you're uncertain of how to proceed, ask questions. Plenty of people have good ideas and plans but don't want to ask for help. Collaboration is often the key to progress.
Taking action now will prepare you to identify and take advantage of opportunities as they come. So stop waiting and start building.


   
                I love You
                 Christina


Friday, November 20, 2015

How Can I Know God's Will?

There is an old story preachers tell about a man trapped on the top of his house during a flood or hurricane or tsunami. The water is swiftly rising. As this man sits on his roof, fearful of being swept away by the current, he cries out to God, “God please deliver me.”
A few moments later, a farmer friend arrives with his boat. “Hey, friend, want a ride to safety?” he asks.
“No,” replies the man on top of his house. “God is going to deliver me.”
An hour later, the water is up to the gutters. A voluntary rescue person comes by on his yellow raft. “Hey, let’s get you off of there and on to safety,” he yells.
But the man on top of his house refuses to go. “God is going to deliver me.”
Another hour passes and now the water is halfway up the roof. Roof Man is now on top of his chimney, nervously looking down at certain death and destruction.
Fortunately, a Red Cross volunteer swings by in a canoe and offers to ride Roof Man to safety. But Roof Man refuses. “No, God is going to deliver me.”
A couple of hours pass by and the water sweeps  over the top of Roof Man’s house. He is carried away by the current and drowns. When he gets to Heaven, he meets Jesus and says, “I though you were going to deliver me.”
Jesus looks down at Roof Man and says, “I sent a boat, an inflatable raft, and a canoe but you refused each one.”
We’ve all heard this story and every time we hear it, we laugh, right? But quite often this is the story of our attempts to discern God’s will.
I can’t tell you how many young people say...., “I just want to do God’s will.”
This is good. I wish more young people would surrender themselves to God’s plan for their lives.
But quite often those well-meaning people act as if God’s will is some sort of vague, hazy thing. It's a vapor that can’t be grasped. It’s almost as if they want God’s Will, but don’t ever think they’ll have a shot at actually finding it.
It really doesn’t have to be this way. Here are two truths that should change the way we think about God’s will.
(1) It is Satan who wants us to be confused, directionless, and ineffective.
(2) It is God who has a preordained plan for us, who has given us specific steps, and who wants to see our lives matter.
So, knowing those truths, how do we wrap our arms around that seemingly mysterious thing called, “God’s will?” Here are four concrete ways in which God speaks to us:

1. God speaks through circumstances.

It's funny, Christians routinely blast atheists and atheism, but we often act as if there is no God. We complain about the uncontrollable events in our lives as if we’re just here by chance, left to sort life out on our own.
But life isn’t dog-eat-dog. God is in charge of this world. God is in charge of our little world. And the events that He allows ....getting fired from a job, meeting a future mate, getting rebuked by a pastor or Christian leader, the family we were born into, the town in which we live, the skill sets, talents, and gifts we possess are all part of God’s divine blueprint for our success.
None of this happens by chance. God is not up in Heaven pounding his fist against his head saying, “Whoops, I really messed up with Christina.” No, God didn’t mess up. God didn’t make a mistake. God isn’t ever caught by surprise.
So you can do one of two things. You can continue to live as the world lives. You can stick to the motto, “Life is random. You get out of it what you make of it. I can’t help the way I am"...or you can embrace your life...your life right now as God’s will.
Yes, what happens to you...that’s out of your control...is God’s will for your life.

2. God speaks through opportunities.

Remember the guy with the boat? God presented to him opportunities and he refused them. A long time ago, I had a friend who constantly agonized over every decision, every opportunity and wondered, “Is this God’s will?”
Meanwhile, God presented him opportunity after opportunity. He wanted to get married, but no girl was good enough. Oh, but he didn’t say that. He said really good spiritual things like, “It’s not God’s will.” Oh yeah? Did you talk to anybody about it? Did you pray about it? Did you ever consider that this could be an opportunity to explore?
And on and on it went with this guy. A dozen ministry and job opportunities  were presented, but he never pursued any of them. He hemmed, hawed, quoted a lot of scripture verses, but never made a move.
Five years later, I had lunch with him. And even though he has held down a job and even gotten married (finally found Ms. Right), he is still in that pondering, hemming and hawing stage. I fear that at the end of his life he’ll be like Roof Man and God will say, “I brought along this opportunity and that opportunity and you refused to take them.”
God works through open doors and opportunities. It’s that simple. These are not just “lucky” occurrences. If you want to do God’s will, ....“Go. Do something and God will direct you.”

3. God speaks through spiritual counselors and mentors.

This is where most of us slip up. We live a lone-ranger Christianity and refuse to listen to wise spiritual counselorsI believe that God’s plan for the Christian in this age is through the local church. Every believer should not only be a part of a local church, but should voluntarily put himself under the accountability of that church.
Now, for young people, this is a tough swallow. Why should I let any pastor or anybody control my life? But the truth is this...the Bible talks over and over about the value of wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to make good decisions, spiritual decisions, and God-honoring decisions.
But young people don’t have a lot of wisdom. That’s why we need to sit at the feet of pastors, trusted lay-leaders, parents, mentors, etc. Every major decision I have ever made in my life I have done with the approval and consent of my pastor. Why? I trust my pastor. He’s a man whom God has sovereignly put into my life to help guide me.
And you know what? I’ve been blessed every time. There have been many moments when I have had what I thought was a really good idea. But people I trust, who have more spiritual wisdom than I do, raised questions. They said, “Hmm, I’m not sure this is a good idea and here is why.”
You too have spiritual mentors in your life. If you don’t, find some in your church. Seek their wisdom. Seek their accountability. Seek their unbiased opinion.
A wise person will take such advice as God speaking to them. That is God’s will.

4. God's will is revealed in God's Word.

How basic, but how true. The fact of the matter is this: 99 percent of what God wants to you to do in your life is spelled out in His Word. And here’s a news flash for you. God is not going to mysteriously lead you to do something that contradicts His Word.
Ask yourself these questions:
How much of God’s revealed Word are you following now?
Are you faithfully seeking Him on a daily basis through Bible study and prayer? 
Are you active in ministry at a Bible-believing church? 
Are you sharing your faith? 
Are you doing your best to live apart from sin? 
Are you faithful to your spouse? 
Are you seeking satisfaction in Christ instead of the world?
These are just a few of many areas where the Bible touches our lives, where God’s Word is revealed to us in simple, concrete, direct language. And you and I can’t escape it.
Quite often, Christians try to blend their own sinful lifestyles with the teachings of scripture and then they wonder why they can’t ever seem to discover “God’s will .” But, unconfessed sin keeps you from closeness to God.
It’s not that God expects us to be perfect. But are you honestly living for him, seeking him, and doing your best to obey his commandments?
If so, guess what, pinch yourself, you’re in God’s will.

                     Remain in God's Will
                      God Bless You
                       Your sister
                         Christina

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Question: "What is the biblical perspective on domestic violence?"


Question: "What is the biblical perspective on domestic violence?"

Answer: 
Domestic violence is narrowly defined as an act or threatened act of violence upon someone with whom the perpetrator is or has previously been in intimate relationship.The term domestic violence often brings to mind the concept of the “battered wife” or perhaps a married couple’s verbal argument escalating into physical assault. Domestic violence is also commonly linked to child abuse. Even if the children are not physically injured, watching or hearing a parent being abused can have severe psychological implications.

Domestic violence is about power and control.  Though the term violence has physical connotations, domestic violence or abuse can occur in non-physical ways. For instance, abusers may manipulate their victims through emotional or economic means. Verbal abuse and sexual abuse are other forms. A person of any age,gender, socio-economic class, education level, or religion can be impacted by domestic violence.

Domestic abuse can be viewed in terms of a “cycle of violence.” Tension builds; the victim attempts to keep the abuser mollified; but, eventually, an incident occurs. The abuser apologizes and attempts to make it up to the victim, perhaps by promising it will never occur again or by lavishing the victim with gifts. Then comes a period of calm before the tension begins to build again. The stages of this cycle may take only minutes or may develop over years. Without intervention, the periods of “making up” and “calm” often disappear.

Domestic violence is in stark opposition to God’s plan for families. Genesis 1 and 2 depict marriage as a one-flesh, helping relationship. Ephesians 5:21 talks about mutual submission. Ephesians 5:22–24 explains a wife’s submissiveness to her husband, while verses 25–33 talk about a husband’s self-sacrificial love for his wife.First Peter 3:1–7 gives similar instructions. First Corinthians 7:4 says, “The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” The two belong to one another and are called to love one another as Christ loved us. Marriage is an image of Christ and the Church. Domestic violence is a far cry from the character of Jesus.

Domestic violence involving children is also condemned by God. Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” God entrusts parents with children, and those parents are to lovingly care for them and train them up. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (see also Colossians 3:21). Children are to obey their parents (Ephesians 6:1–3), and discipline is important. But discipline is distinctly different from violence and abuse.

Following God involves serving others, not manipulating and controlling them. Jesus told His disciples, “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Matthew 20:26–28). His command to us is to “love one another” (John 13:34). Ephesians 5:1–2 says, “Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” Christians are called to sacrificially love others, especially those in their own families.

Those who are currently in a domestic violence situation should do everything possible to get out safely. Often, the most dangerous time for a victim of domestic violence is when she or he leaves. Contacting the police may be in order, or there may be other local resources available to help. In the United States, the National Domestic Violence Hotline can help with information and resources. Their number is 1-800-799-7233. They can also be found online at http://www.thehotline.org/ (NOTE: computer use can be monitored, so only visit these websites if the abuser has no way of tracking your online activity). When domestic violence is ongoing, safety is the first step.

Even after victims are physically safe and bodily wounds have healed, emotional and psychological scars run deep. Domestic violence can have severe spiritual implications as well. Victims may distrust God. Why would He allow such a thing to happen? Is He trustworthy? Does He really love me? Where was He when I was being abused? Walking through the healing process takes time. The emotional reaction to the situation must come. It is appropriate to express anger over the abuse. If we do not acknowledge the severity of the situation—the anger, the confusion, the hurt, the shame, etc.—we cannot heal from it. Too often, victims are prematurely hurried into forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiveness is the thing that will set a victim free. But true forgiveness cannot be extended if the scars of the abuse are not first acknowledged and dealt with. Victims of domestic violence will likely need the support of a well-trained 
Christian counselling to journey with them through the healing process.

We should not assume that abusers have no needs other than to stop abusing. There are likely unresolved issues that have led them to become abusive. If an abuser is willing to admit his or her culpability and desires help, there is hope. Again, Christian counselling can be of great value.

Each domestic violence story is different. The situations and people are so diverse that no one article can sufficiently handle the issue. However, generally speaking, marriage counseling is not an appropriate solution—at least not until all abuse has stopped, both parties have undergone individual counseling, and both parties desire reconciliation. The same would be true for family therapy. Children should never be put into an abusive situation or be expected to remain in one while an abuser learns godly parenting.

Domestic violence hurts the heart of God. He is not unmoved by its victims, nor has He abandoned them. His plan for human relationships—particularly those among family—is a beautiful depiction of who He is. Family is meant to reflect God’s love. It saddens Him when a home turns into a place of pain. God’s desire for those involved with domestic violence—both victims and abusers—is healing and wholeness.


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Recommended ResourcesNo Place for Abuse: Biblical & Practical Resources to Counteract Domestic Violence by Catherine Clark Kroeger & Nancy Nason-Clark and Logos Bible Software.
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