Sunday, October 24, 2021

Are you standing on the crossroad? What do you see? Episode 1

 

The journey of life has two roads and two destinations. The choice and decision of which road to take is yours.

As a child, you walk for a while on the road of innocence, and then you come to the point of crossroads. The road of childhood and innocence ends, and you discovered two distinct roads. As you come to this crossroads, you must make a decision. Which road shall I take? This decision is very important. It is the MOST IMPORTANT decision in life because one road leads to heaven, and the other road leads to hell. " Choose you this day whom ye will serve" (Joshua 24:15).


    How will you know when you come to this crossroads? There is no set rule or age. Some children reach the crossroads earlier in life than others. Perhaps the crossroads is not reached until the person is exposed to the gospel or made aware of a better way. It may be a new awareness of right and wrong or a gentle tug to follow the Lord. These are indications of the crossroads. God is a loving God, and He makes known the two ways regardless of country or culture.

  As you stand at the crossroads, what do you see? Take a good look at the two roads. You will see that one road is wide and apparently smooth and easy to travel. The other road is narrow. It requires saying "no" to sin. The wide road has only a few.

Jesus said, "Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: Because  strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it." ( Matthew 7:13-14)

                                     


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Saturday, October 23, 2021

The Answer To Our Problems | God's forgiveness makes us free -Part 3

When you have been cleansed by the Blood of Jesus, you will realize that you could not change your life by your own power. You must believe that God has the wisdom and keeping power for your life. If you come to God with all your heart, forsake your sins and follow in obedience, He will do what is best for you/ This is faith  .   .   .trusting God completely with your life. Once you have given all to God, the peace that you receive in your heart will be the evidence that He has forgiven you.

The forgiveness you receive from God will make you FREE; free with the sweet confidence that now you are a child of God, made perfect by the Blood of Jesus Christ. A new purpose is born that will enable you to overcome feelings of fear, anxiety, and emptiness.

Here are some important scriptures to meditate on:

Matthew 11:28 | Come unto Me.

Matthew 6: 25-31 | God care for you.

John 3:16 | God loves you.

John 14:15| Obey God.

                                   


     

Friday, October 22, 2021

The Answer To Our Problems | What can I do to change these feelings of guilt? Part 2

   

You cannot pay for your sins no matter how many good deeds you do. In God's eyes you are still a sinner. God cannot tolerate sin. Sin separates us from God. ( Isaiah 59:2)

       Now here is the beautiful and simple plan God has to help us. Jesus, God's sinless and perfect Son came to bring this plan. He took our sins upon Himself and died on the cross, paying the price that was demanded for our sins. Through the death and resurrection of Jesus we can have salvation today. Jesus invites us to come to Him with the burden of sin and He will give us rest.

    God wants to help you. He will forgive you when you are willing to admit that you are a sinner and call on Him to help. All your efforts and good intentions cannot cleanse  you from sin. There is only one way you can be cleansed from yours sins and that is by having the Blood of Jesus Christ applied to your heart.


          Jesus is the Cradle of Hope!

                                 


In pursuit of Answers|What happened?Part 1


Do you have feelings of loneliness, or a sense of guilt and fear deep inside your heart? Do you wonder about the purpose of your life? Many people are trying to find the answer to these feelings. You may find entertainments or other activities that may relieve you of these feelings for a short time, then they return, perhaps stronger than ever before.

In the beginning God's creation was perfect. Man  had no problems until the devil came and enticed him to disobey God. He fell into sin and he was no longer perfect. Ever since that time all humanity has been sinful. 

Can we relate to this fall? When we were children, God was not keeping track of our sins but was forgiving us for Jesus' sake. As you matured these things began to change and you started to have guilty feelings. What happened? God was letting you feel the guilt of your sins. No longer was the blood of Jesus covering your sins. God was saying,  " You are now responsible for what you are doing." If you have not accepted Jesus as your Savior you are still carrying a burden of guilt.

What can I do to change these feelings of guilt?

                                     



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Saturday, October 9, 2021

Children can be taught COURAGE.

Children can be taught COURAGE. Which virtue are you teaching your children this weekend?

*Courage. 

*Honesty.            

* Frugality

These are the few  virtues I will be teaching my kids this weekend.

  I've prepared some flashcards, fun games and activities, which I will be using to illustrate my lesson.

          After, the lesson, I'm pretty sure we'll be making some candies, and lots of cupcakes.....Joan loves baking. . .for the boys, I'm sure we'll figure out something amazing 😄.


*** Virtues can be revisited, rethought, and retaught to our children***


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Wednesday, October 6, 2021

CEN ON Medieval History: Work and Adolescence in the Middle Ages.

 By Melissa Snell


Few medieval teenagers enjoyed a formal foundation as it was rare in the Middle Ages. As a result, not all adolescents went to school, and even those who did were not wholly consumed by learning. Many teens worked, and just about all of them played.

Working at Home

Teens in peasant families were most likely to work instead of attending school. Offspring could be an integral part of a peasant family's income as productive workers contributing to the farming operation. As a paid servant in another household, frequently in another town, an adolescent could either contribute to the total income or simply cease using the family resources, thereby increasing the overall economic standing of those he left behind.

In the peasant household, children provided valuable assistance to the family as early as age five or six. This assistance took the form of simple chores and did not take up a great deal of the child's time. Such chores included fetching water, herding geese, sheep or goats, gathering fruit, nuts, or firewood, walking and watering horses, and fishing. Older children were often enlisted to care for or at least watch over their younger siblings.

At the house, girls would help their mothers with tending a vegetable or herb garden, making or mending clothes, churning butter, brewing beer and performing simple tasks to help with the cooking. In the fields, a boy no younger than 9-years-old and usually 12 years or older, might assist his father by goading the ox while his father handled the plow.

As children reached their teens, they might continue to perform these chores unless younger siblings were there to do them, and they would most definitely increase their workloads with more demanding tasks. Yet the most difficult of tasks were reserved for those with the most experience; handling a scythe, for example, was something that took great skill and care, and it was unlikely for an adolescent to be given the responsibility of using it during the most pressing times of harvest.

Work for teenagers was not limited to within the family; rather, it was fairly common for a teen to find work as a servant in another household.

Service Work

In all but the poorest medieval households, it would not be surprising to find a servant of one variety or another. Service could mean part-time work, day labor, or working and living under the roof of an employer. The type of work that occupied a servant's time was no less variable: there were shop servants, craft assistants, laborers in agriculture and manufacturing, and, of course, household servants of every stripe.

Although some individuals took on the role of servant for life, service was frequently a temporary stage in the life of an adolescent. These years of labor—often spent in another family's home—gave teenagers the chance to save up some money, acquire skills, make social and business connections, and absorb a general understanding of the way society conducted itself, all in preparation for entry into that society as an adult.

A child might possibly enter service as young as age seven, but most employers sought older children to hire for their advanced skills and responsibility. It was far more common for children to take up positions as servants at age ten or twelve. The amount of work carried out by younger servants was necessarily limited; pre-adolescents are rarely if ever suited to heavy lifting or to tasks that require fine manual dexterity. An employer who took on a seven-year-old servant would expect the child to take some time learning his tasks, and he would probably start with very simple chores.

Common Occupations

Employed in a household, boys might become grooms, valets, or porters, girls could be housemaids, nurses, or scullery maids, and children of either gender could work in the kitchens. With a little training young men and women might assist at skilled trades, including silk making, weaving, metalworking, brewing, or winemaking. In villages, they could acquire skills involving clothmaking, milling, baking, and blacksmithing as well as help in the fields or household.

By far, the majority of servants in town and countryside came from poorer families. The same network of friends, family and business associates that provided apprentices also yielded workers. And, much like apprentices, servants sometimes had to post bonds so that prospective employers might take them on, assuring their new bosses they would not leave before the agreed-upon term of service was up.

Hierarchies and Relationships

There were also servants of nobler origins, particularly those who served as valets, ladies' maids, and other confidential assistants in illustrious households. Such individuals might be temporary adolescent employees from the same class as their employers or long-term servants from the gentry or urban middle class. They might even have been educated at a University before taking up their posts. By the 15th century, several advice manuals for such esteemed servants were in circulation in London and other large towns, and not only noblemen but high city officials and wealthy merchants would seek to hire individuals who could perform delicate duties with tact and finesse.

It was not unusual for a servant's brothers and sisters to find work in the same household. When an older sibling moved on from service, his younger sibling might take his place, or perhaps they'd be employed simultaneously at different jobs. It was also not uncommon for servants to work for family members: for example, a childless man of prosperity in a town or city might employ his country-dwelling brother's or cousin's children. This might seem exploitative or high-handed, but it was also a way for a man to give his relatives economic assistance and a good start in life while still allowing them to keep their dignity and pride in accomplishment.

Terms of Employment

It was common procedure to draw up a service contract that would outline the terms of service, including payment, length of service, and living arrangements. Some servants saw little legal recourse if they encountered difficulty with their masters, and it was more common for them to suffer their lot or run away rather than turn to the courts for redress. Yet court records show this was not always the case: masters and servants both brought their conflicts to legal authorities for resolution on a regular basis.

Household servants almost always lived with their employers, and to deny housing after having promised it was considered a disgrace. Living together in such close quarters could result in terrible abuse or close bonds of loyalty. In fact, masters and servants of close rank and age were known to form lifelong bonds of friendship during the term of service. On the other hand, it was not unknown for masters to take advantage of their servants, particularly teenage girls in their employ.

The relationship of most teenage servants to their masters fell somewhere in between fear and adulation. They did the work that was asked of them, were fed, clothed, sheltered and paid, and during their free time sought out ways to relax and have fun.

Recreation

A common misconception about the Middle Ages is that life was dreary and dull, and none but the nobility ever enjoyed any leisure or recreational activities. And, of course, life was indeed hard compared to our comfortable modern existence. But all was not darkness and drudgery. From peasants to townsfolk to gentry, people of the Middle Ages knew how to have fun, and teens were certainly no exception.

A teenager might spend a large part of each day working or studying but, in most cases, he would still have a little time for recreation in the evenings. He'd have still more free time on holidays such as Saints' Days, which were fairly frequent. Such liberty might be spent alone, but it was more likely to be an opportunity for him to socialize with coworkers, fellow students, fellow apprentices, family or friends.

For some teenagers, childhood games that occupied the younger years such as marbles and shuttlecocks evolved into more sophisticated or strenuous pastimes like bowls and tennis. Adolescents engaged in more dangerous wrestling matches than the playful contests they'd attempted as children, and they played some very rough sports like football—variations that were precursors to today's rugby and soccer. Horseracing was fairly popular on the outskirts of London, and younger teens and pre-teens were frequently jockeys due to their lighter weight.

Mock battles among the lower classes were frowned upon by authorities, for fighting rightfully belonged to the nobility, and violence and misconduct could ensue if youths learned how to use swords. However, archery was encouraged in England due to its significant role in what has come to be called the Hundred Years' War. Recreation such as falconry and hunting were usually limited to the upper classes, primarily due to the cost of such pastimes. Furthermore, forests, where sporting game might be found, were almost exclusively the province of the nobility, and peasants found hunting there—which they usually did for food rather than sport—would be fined.

Games of Strategy and Gambling

Archaeologists have discovered among castle remains intricately carved sets of chess and tables (a precursor to backgammon), hinting at some popularity of board games among the noble classes. There is no doubt that peasants would be unlikely at best to acquire such costly trifles. While it is possible that less expensive or home-made versions could have been enjoyed by the middle and lower classes, none have yet been found to support such a theory; and the leisure time required to master such skills would have been prohibited by the lifestyles of all but the wealthiest folk. However, other games such as merrills, which required only three pieces per player and a rough three-by-three board, could easily have been enjoyed by anyone willing to spend a few moments collecting stones and roughing out a crude gaming area.

One pastime that was definitely enjoyed by city teens was dicing. Long before the Middle Ages, carved cube dice had evolved to replace the original game of rolling bones, but bones were occasionally still used. Rules varied from era to era, region to region and even from game to game, but as a game of pure chance (when honestly played), dicing was a popular basis for gambling. This prompted some cities and towns to pass legislation against the activity.

Teens who engaged in gambling were likely to indulge in other unsavory activities that could result in violence, and riots were far from unknown. In hopes of heading off such incidents, city fathers, recognizing the need of adolescents to find release for their youthful exuberance, declared certain saints' days occasions for great festivals. The celebrations that ensued were opportunities for people of all ages to enjoy public spectacles ranging from morality plays to bear-baiting as well as contests of skill, feasting, and processions.

Sources:

  • Hanawalt, Barbara, Growing Up in Medieval London (Oxford University Press, 1993).
  • Reeves, Compton, Pleasures  (Oxford University Press, 1995).and Pastimes in Medieval England
  • Source: Work and Adolescence in the Middle Ages (thoughtco.com)
  • Image Credit: Culture Club / Getty Images

  • About the Author:
  • Melissa SnellHistory ExpertB.A., History, University of Texas at AustinMelissa Snell is a historical researcher and writer specializing in the Middle Ages and the Renaissance. She authored the forward for "The Complete Idiot's Guide to the Crusades."

CEN On Medieval History: Childhood in medieval Europe, Philippe Aries vs. Shulamath Shahar

 

Historian Philippe Ariès claimed that in medieval Europe childhood was not viewed as a distinct period in human development, with a special character and needs. His argument for this thesis relied heavily on medieval text illustrations, which distinguish children from adults principally by their stature, rather than by a distinctively childlike appearance: the children look like miniature adults. Ariès also suggested that high infant mortality rates in the Middle Ages induced indifference toward offspring as a defense mechanism against establishing close ties with infants unlikely to survive. Shulamith Shahar's recent research challenges this established conception of the medieval view of childhood.

Shahar has had to work hard to find evidence to support her interpretation of the medieval conception of childhood, since works that reveal parents' personal attitudes, such as Giovanni Morelli's journal, are exceptional. Shahar makes intelligent use of medical writing and theological works. Particularly illuminating are medieval accounts of saints' lives, which despite their emphasis on personal piety reveal much concerning their subjects' childhoods and which provide evidence of parental concern for children. Even more significant are accounts of saints' miracles involving the healing of sick infants and the blessing of young couples with children.
Shahar also discusses the period in childhood from ages 7 to 11 when boys of the wealthier classes were placed in monasteries or as apprentices in the household of a “master” of a trade. To some this custom might imply a perception of childhood insufficiently distinguished from adulthood, or even indifference to children, evidenced by the willingness to send young children away from home. Shahar points out, however, that training was in stages, and children were not expected to live as adults or to assume all the tasks of maturity at once. Furthermore, Shahar quotes a telling number of instances in which parents of apprentices sued masters for maltreatment of their children. Shahar concludes that parents placed their children in monasteries or as apprentices not to be rid of them, but because it was a social norm to ensure one's children a future niche in society.
Shahar's work is highly persuasive, but as a rebuttal to Ariès, it is uncomfortably incomplete. Shahar succeeds in demonstrating that people in the Middle Ages did view childhood as a definite stage in human development and that they were not indifferent toward their children. But central to Ariès's position was the contention that the family as a powerful and private institution organized around children is a relatively modern ideal, whose origins Ariès related to the growing influence of the middle classes in the postmedieval period. Ariès felt that this implied something novel about the development of perceptions of childhood and of the family. Shahar does not comment on these larger issues.


Source: Childhood in medieval Europe, Philippe Aries vs. Shulamath Shahar